Sexual Intimacy

So, today I will be talking about what our class discussed last week on sexual intimacy in marriage. What I got out of the lesson was what most of us already know: men and women have different sexual responses that can lead to unfulfilled marriages if not understood by either spouse. The knowledge about the differences between the sexes can be the floodgate for ultimate fulfillment in marriage! Once understood, the differences can be viewed as God-given and will ultimately make sense in the long run through the complimentary factors these differences make.

In the book, And They Were Not Ashamed by Laura Brotherson, it specifies the differences between the sexes, specifically outlining the complex response cycle of women. Throughout the book, she mentions stories of couples who were unsatisfied with their marriages, specifically pertaining to sexual intimacy.

What many people do not know, men and women included, is that women take a lot longer to "warm-up" and be mentally prepared for sex. Contrasted to men who are ready sexually at the snap of a finger, women can take 10 times as long to warm up to just the idea of having sex. Many men don't understand why their wives are never "in the mood" to have sex. It may just be that they aren't doing a very good job at being their lovers! Women need to be loved and shown affection long before sex is even a thought. They need to feel like their husbands love them as a person, not as an object for their sexual pleasure. The complete opposite is for men! Men need to have sex in order to feel loved! See how this big difference can create immense problems in marriage??

The main thing that I can leave with you is that men need to be more sensitive to their wives feelings in loving them and taking time with them before pursuing sex, and women need to be willing, mentally and physically, to prepare for sex. Oh, another piece of advice: read And They Were Not Ashamed. Best book ever.